Celibacy, beer, and tarot card readings, oh my.

On Celibacy:
A beautiful day, a fantastic lunch, great conversation about MMOs, kilt, kinky, and a thick southern drawl broke my vow of celibacy.

As if I cared, anyways.

I did a little purging of my personal life (read: no more NB) and played low key on the flirting for a few days. 11 days later I decided to jump back into the sack with a cowboy. Cowboy is super sweet and super high energy and fucking him was like fucking someone who was on coke. Anyways... Cowboy is the ultimate vanilla lover- very willing to please, very shy, not adventurous, but very eager. There may have been a belt laying on the floor that I may have picked up and slapped his ass with and when I asked him if he would like for me to whip him, he responded with  'I don't know'. 'I DON'T KNOW' MEANS YES!
After rolling around in the hay for a while, we got into a deep discussion about sex. Cowboy disclosed that his experiences have not been kinky or adventurous and I told him that I could change that for him, if he was willing. He is willing. I will be his coach.

I have had great lovers in my life and have been fortunate enough to have a kinky coach myself. So, I will play the kinky forward. Teach this cowboy a few kinky tricks or two and he can then pass this on to other lovers he will have and so on and so forth. See what I just did there? I am always trying to help someone *smile*


On Beer: 
What has gotten into me since St. Pat's day: BEER!!! Not only do I enjoy Guinness, I now enjoy Modelo - thanks to Cowboy for introducing this to me.

On Tarot card reading: 

When I was 20, I stopped by a local fortune teller shop and on a whim paid for a tarot reading for myself and my roommate. It was all on a whim. I thought the lady was complete bullshit- she told me all the things that a 20 year old did not want to hear- about, a failed marriage, failure at romance, moving states, relationships in general, depression, excess substance use... Bullshit, right? All of what I remember her telling me has come true. There are details of my personal life that I do not share on any platform, these are details that I always keep to myself until I feel trust with that person I am disclosing to. But trust me, the bitch was spot on. 

This weekend, on a whim again, at the Forth Worth Main Street Arts Festival, a palm reading sign caught my eye. I thought to myself, why the F not. At this point in my life, I do not have many unanswered life questions and for the most part, I do not have many problems. I am happy with who I am and where I am in my life. So, needless to say I had no questions for Psychic Contessa (name on her card by the way). Contessa asked me if I prefer to have my tarot cards read instead of my palm and I agreed. She asked me if I had any questions for her and I responded 'just tell me what you see'.

This is what she told me about the present:

• People are two faced to me, happy to my face but jealous of me behind my back. 
• There are some people who wish I was not happy.
• I am a happy and giving person that thinks of others before myself.
• I am stable in my life but wish for more wealth.
• I cannot keep a relationship for very long and may also self sabotage the relationships.
• I meet people and connect with them easily- but often lose touch.
• I loved someone very deeply and think of him every night.

Pretty generic enough. I mean these facts could basically fit anyone. 

This is what she told me about the future:

• I will own my own business in 4 years.
• I will meet a man in the next 3 months who will make me rethink my stance on relationships.
• I will be traveling in the next 2 months for more than 2 weeks but less than a month and this trip will make me extremely happy.
• In the next 6 months there will be a huge change with your job and your location.
• Money will be coming my way from now until 6 months from now, a substantial amount.
• I will remain healthy. 
• I will remarry.

So. Meh, lets see if any of these things happen to me. AND IF THEY DO I AM GOING BACK TO HER FOR LOTTO NUMBERS! 

De cluttering my personal life and washing the baseboards of my mind or I am playing a lot of Rift

SPRING CLEANING IS SO MUCH FUN I DECIDED TO CLEAN OUT THE CLOSETS OF MY MIND!

Yes, I had to use all caps for that.

Oh spring!

Grass growing green, weeds too.

Birds singing,

Everything seems new.

Again.

But it is the same old shit- just different year.

Ha!

I am on Celibacy day 9. Honestly, I don't remember why I am tracking my celibacy; I just am. However, I have had a little bit of clarity as the past 9 days I have abstained from any physical contact or 'too' flirty conversations and/or emails/texts/subliminal messages with anyone-  my mind is free of romance clutter.

Aside,of course, for the lovely text messages I have been exchanging with a young chap (Yes I said chap and yes he is old enough to buy beer) about a fantasy date trip to the moon or other flirty, dorky, cutsey stuff that may involve masterbation, hands, and Pokemon balls.

I have not tweeted much lately about my non-relationship with NB. I was never going to be his girlfriend. I never wanted a relationship. I told him many times that I was not ready for a relationship, I was still damaged, I just wanted things to be casual. Truth is, or so I think, that I just did not want to have a relationship with him. So with heavy heart, I told him what I thought and we have ended our friendship, completely. I really strive to be a honest and open person- I feel compelled to tell the truth and sadly, I do not have the social skills to sugar coat what needs to be said. But, my darling NB, Jeff, was in love with me and the closest I could get to loving him was loving the way I felt when he did things for me.

Last fall, my heart was broken, shattered really- but I think it unfair to myself and to others that I continue to use that excuse as a crutch. I met a man who I thought was my soul mate- everything about him made me want to be a better 'me'. But, the stars did not align for us, there were no parting of the clouds, and angels did not drop from your heaven and wish us well. Shit just sometimes doesn't work out.

So I threw myself into a non-relationship with a man who was lacking two important characteristics that I would need in a partner. He lacked self confidence that matched my own- I really need someone in my life more alpha than I. And we did not have that 'wild animal fucking' chemistry that I crave. (more on my checklist here:Old blog post)

And I was very clear in the onset of this non-relationship that I was not looking for a relationship, AT ALL. I just wanted to enjoy his company. At the time, he thought it an awesome idea. Fast Forward a few months and he may have changed his mind and created expectations of me and our non-relationship that I was not aware of.

There were key indicators of his dissatisfaction with this arrangement- there was the late night text messages inquiring of my whereabouts, there were snarky conversations about what or who I was doing when we were not together- but when we were together he was happy.

He told me a few weeks ago that it felt like I was his girlfriend when we were together- he discussed with me all the 'couply' things that we did together, like how we would take naps, just naps together in the middle of the day or go to Costco and buy soy milk- but he also told me that he thought I was doing the same thing with someone else.

I was not.
But, I was not about to argue my position in this 'non-relationship'.
I may have acted the part of his girlfriend when he needed me to, subconsciously. I also, in retrospect, think he viewed our 'non-relationship' a lot differently than I did. To me, he was a good friend that I could share everything with and sometimes do this while we were naked. To him, I was a broken hearted girl that only needed time to heal to realize that he was the one for me.

I never asked for exclusivity.
I may have inadvertently gave him false hope by just being who I am.

So with that said, I will try my hardest not to 'throw that p' (Reference to what that means in video below) to any unsuspecting new victims, I will try to keep my hands to myself and level any 'girlfriend' expectation that may arise.

So I take this celibacy thing of mine as a emotional and physical cleansing of sorts. There is not a goal of how many days I want to remain celibate- there is no 'end game' to my celibacy- I have gotten what I needed from going a whole 9 days without sex.

A little bit of de cluttering. 

If you are fucked up in the head, chances are- we are gonna hook up!

I think secretly (not so secretly, anymore) I love crazy people.

It seems if someone is emotionally unstable, I will seek them out and date them! Especially if it is the type of person who says they are cool with the whole casual relationship thing, but they really want a relationship and think that they can change your mind- yeah I think I can sniff you out of a crowd of five million and give you and only you my phone number.

I canceled my date with cowboy for the third time in two weeks. I may have wanted to see the kilt and cowboy boots more than actually spend time to get to know the guy. And maybe I wanted him to keep calling me 'Dahlin' in that thick ass southern accent, maybe, just maybe.

Ok lets recap the men in my life, shall we.

There is NB- our drama is on a whole other level of crazy.

There was Mucha Lucha who is very bi-polar and gone.

And We have Cowboy.

Cowboy is has emo/bi polar tendencies and has ex hang ups. I got them too, I am not being judgy- I am still heart broken over the Canadian who used to tweet as @LycanMercutio- but, I digress.

This is why I canceled the date with Cowboy, again.

So he was dogging his ex a little bit and that wasn't a big deal to me but what was a big deal to me was the random BUT SOMETIMES YOU GET ATTACHED bullshit. This is red flag for me. I quickly used my Rift excuse to get out of that convo. Cowboy is super sweet guy but again I think I have found someone who is looking for that girlfriend- and I am not her. I did tell him I do not, under any circumstances, want a relationship.

In other news:

My stranger danger friend from the wrong number plays picture caption with me. I bet he is a psycho too- but  it doesn't matter as he is thousands of miles away from me.

He looks a lot psycho, right? Figures.

Jeff, is that you?

I have 2 Jeffreys in my life- both go by the name Jeff. One is my cousin in San Jose, California and the other is a guy I date who I usually refer to as NB. My cousin Jeff is in my phone contacts as 'JEFF' and the Jeff that I date is in my phone contacts with his first and last name.

Sometime last year, before Christmas but after August (can't remember shit), I got a text message from a number that said "Hey, this is Jeff" followed by some pictures of random things- flowers, grassy knolls, tree or some shit, I don't really recall. I vaguely remember replying with 'Cuz, what are you doing' and received a reply saying something to the effect of being bored but was called 'ma'. See my cousin, Jeff, is one of those Asian B Boys from California who thinks he is XZIBIT- and has called me 'ma' or 'lil ma' since the late 90s.

So I assumed this text was from him.

It wasn't.

Since that text last year, I received a picture here and there and sent comments, all the while thinking my cousin is super bored out of his mind- bothering me with his photos.

Until just a few days ago- I actually engaged my 'cousin' in a short text conversation. I received a few pictures then asked my cousin about his job- which got a chuckle then 4 pictures of BOOK COVER ART. The text that followed were about selling his book on Amazon and ebooks and his new book. AND FROM WHAT I KNOW MY COUSIN IS NOT ALL THAT SMART (sorry cuz). So.... I was confused. The text continued until I decided to ask if this person was my cousin.

This was some crazy ass shit. Who the fuck was this guy? Was it my cousin just fucking with me? Had I met this dude, had his number and could not remember who the fuck he was? By this text message, I was convinced that I had met dude and just did not remember who the hell he was, so I decided to call him.

When I spoke with him- I was convinced we had met but that we just never made a connection and forgot who each other was. He sent me pictures. I have never met him. I sent him pictures- I will not share those with you. 

I talked on the phone with Jeff for about an hour- he in California and me here. Fucking strange. And what was even weirder was how much we had in common.

He is a published author- I plan on reading his books on the DL- and when he is in Dallas in a few months, he has offered to buy me a beer.

Weird, eh?

A Picture is Worth a Thousand Words or 3some Equals More Cuddles

Maybe one day I will get into graphic details of my first MMF 3some. I don't think there is much of the event that I will ever forget. It was an epic night and I was so happy to share this experience with a playmate that I will be loosing next month. It has always been hard for me to form attachments to people- I suppose this is why I make a terrible girlfriend. But I have been working on that flaw in my character. I make attempts to connect with people and stay connected. Soon my playmate will be moving out of state- not far- but surely too far to drive for a late night fuck. He has helped me crack my halo more than a few times. I appreciate him.  I will miss him. 

A little about the 3some.

My playmate answered the door in a costume and my guest playmate was inside looking very pretty- seriously he was pretty but naughty uber kinky too. 

There was a little drinking. A lot of ecstasy. Porn. Poker. Dancing. Music. Tortellini. And costume changes!!! I think we may have all gotten naked and dressed 4 or 5 times!!! Playmate wore my kitsune ears for a lot of the evening not even knowing he had them on- it was awesome.

There were a lot of heart rate cuddle and water breaks and everything seemed to roll very naturally (Well we were on drugs). On one hand you have my playmate who is rage/agro fucker, he is very into giving it if you know what I mean. And on the other hand you have guest playmate who told me 'I like to be close'- he was more touchy feely huggy lovey. There was a lot more one on one time with him as I think we were on the same 'petting' x vibe. Both called me 'dahlin'- and I fucking love that.

I may get ballsy and post a few sex pictures and write about the event in more detail at a later date. But for now her is a very sweet picture which encompasses the feeling of the entire event. Playmate offered guest playmate the guest bedroom but I wanted him with us. I have never felt more comfortable going to bed than when I was in the arms of two men. Us getting ready for bed. 

I love PvP and will be rollin on X tonight.

Had to post this picture before I head off to see my attorney. I am not in trouble or anything, no worries- just arbitration.

Anyways- epic night planned. Deets to follow.

Here is a little pic of one Level 21 Cleric in Rift. Wes introduced me to the world or war fronts on Rift and I am super hooked. Took the cleric out to the war front today for a test drive. Black gardens levels 20-29. My girl did not do to shabby.
See:

My addiction to Rift grows and my relationship status to NB may be suffering.

OK lets face it. If one had to categorize my relationship with NB (Not my Boyfriend), one would categorize him as a 'Boyfriend'- although he isn't as I have not made that determination. But I speak to him every day- see him a few times a week and on most weekends, I am his date. We cuddle, we hold hands, we cook for each other- on the surface it is all very 'couply'.

I date other people.

I have never asked. But he does.

We don't talk about it.

I like NB very much. He reminds me of a guy I used to date a couple of years ago. Our relationship reminds me of that guy I used to date a few years ago. Both epic guys, great sense of humor, pleasant personalities, driven, caring, loving- but lacking a little bit in the two things I desire most in a long term partner- Alpha #Tigersblood and sexual prowess.

Sadly, even though I date NB on the regular, I enjoy sex with someone else I am seeing far more. This has become a slippery slope for me as I want to have sex with NB less and less as time goes on. Knowing what awesome chemistry I can have with someone else- that chemistry, where sparks fly and angels sing and shit. But there is no substance there- it is just sex, really.

Story of my life I think...
On paper, picture perfect dude, loves me regardless of my faults, willing to welcome me into his life regardless of my baggage and I enjoy sex with someone else who isn't at all good for me. On one hand a guy worthy of being the father of my future children and on the other hand, guy(s) I will most likely have to bail out of jail, will set my belongings on fire, but can give me the most awesome orgasms ever.

What to do, what to do.
So like any responsible adult who has had her share of heartaches.
I do nothing.
And just let things happen.

But... I also think my current obsession with the video game Rift- has started to affect my relationship with NB. I have been late to meeting him because I was playing Rift. I have been with him and wanted to go home to play Rift. I have been on the phone with him and zone out in our conversations because I was thinking of Rift. Problem much? I think so.

I have been spoiled in this relationship, very spoiled. NB is aware that I bore easy and get distracted by all things shiny but I can tell from his tone that I am losing favor. And I don't know how much I care.

I fail miserably at relationship.
Thankfully I AM AT A POINT IN MY LIFE THAT I DON'T WANT ONE.

I think I just rage quit this blog post.